I’ve composed a list of the top 5 attributes which are needed to have a successful relationship and funnily enough, love doesn’t come into it at all. They are in no particular order as I believe they are all important. What are your top 5 attributes?
Being consistent is the first building block to any trusting relationship. Just knowing that someone will be there in times of uncertainty is enough to put anyone at ease. Being consistently inconsistent is a major red flag for me. I need to know my partner is just a phone call away if I need them for any and everything.
Taking your partner’s feelings, thoughts and wishes into account is a healthy part of any relationship because it shows them that they are valued. Constantly working to consider the other person’s feelings only helps to strengthen the partnership over time; creating a happier environment for everyone involved and everyone around them.
A relationship is a partnership, so for the most part you should be on the same team; working together to meet the same goals. This might mean that one of you might need to adjust your behaviour sometimes to ensure that the other’s needs are met; as long as the overall vision is still shared between both parties. But compromise is not a one-way street, so both partners should be pulling their weight to ensure their other half is happy.
Both physical and non-physical intimacy are important in a relationship. Non-Physical intimacy helps you to understand your partner on a deeper level and makes sense of their quirky behaviour. Whilst physical intimacy reassures the other partner of a connection and a level of support. And the best thing about it is the more you practice it, the better you get at it making each time more phenomenal than the last.
Being able to talk honestly with your partner about your worries, issues, hopes and successes is important for any relationship. If you can’t talk, then how can you develop any real understanding of one another? If you’re scared to talk to your partner then there is something dangerously wrong with the healthiness of your relationship. If you can’t talk to your partner or share your concerns with them then all you really have is just glorified f**k buddies.
Love doesn’t come into my top 5 is because I believe that the combination of all of these things in a relationship is a demonstration of love in itself.