As exciting as it must be to have a long distance relationship, I find it hard to believe that they are sustainable. I get that it’s probably more exciting to speak to them when you do because of the distance between you and it’s probably even more exciting when you eventually reunite. Everyone’s feelings are magnified due to them being more out of reach. As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. But how is it possible to sustain the same level of intimacy, love, care and effort that is needed for a successful relationship when your partner spends the majority of their time in a completely different jurisdiction than you? Personally, I can barely date a guy who lives more than a 45-minute drive away from me so I’m not sure how a long distance relationship is sustainable. What do you think?
Firstly, I think it’s important that partners are only a phone call away, especially in times of crisis. How hard must it be to rely on someone who potentially lives in a completely different time zone? They might be asleep or at work when you need them the most and God-forbid if something happened to them. How inconvenient and possibly expensive would it be to rearrange your life to be with them in a time of crisis? Imagine not being able to afford to see them when they really needed you? I don’t even want to think of the ache that must bring on someone’s heart. It’d probably save you the heartache just to be with someone who is more tangible from the start.
here’s also the issue of them meeting someone during your long break away. Someone who is closer to them and that convinces them that they are more likely to be the one for them. It usually makes more sense to be with someone who treats you right if they are more easily accessible to you than to be with someone that treats you right but you only see them thrice a year.
Furthermore, there’s the matter of not truly knowing what your partner is getting up to. Now I’m not one for keeping tabs on your partner but if your only seeing your other half once a month or 3 or 4 times a year, how do you know that they haven’t got a whole other relationship a little closer to home? How do you know that they aren’t living two separate lives? One for you and one for their other family. How do you know that you aren’t the side piece? Some will say that this comes down to trust and for some this may work but I don’t believe in it. It’s hard enough to keep your partner in mind when you go abroad with your friends so I can only imagine how hard it is to keep them in mind when you live in different borders. Some might argue that even a partner who’s closer to you may be unfaithful but chances are, you’re more likely to find out about it if you spend more time with them.
And even if the person is faithful and true to you and you dream of spending the rest of your life with them, surely it would make more sense to eventually move in with them so that you can live out your life’s dream. If you only see your partner on face-time and meet them less than once a month, then all you really are is glorified pen-pals. So if you are planning on spending the rest of life with your long-distance lover, it further proves that you need the proximity just to make things work. Long distance relationships don’t last in the long run so I hope you have plans to lessen the distance between you and your lover so you can have your happily ever after x